A story about a family

Watch the video version here: https://youtu.be/sw7olEtkFMo

There was a man named Josh. He was a rich man who owned a big company. He had a wife and two children.

He was so busy establishing his company and rarely spent time with his family. He had no idea what his wife likes or what his children are doing. His only aim was to earn a lot of money. Whole day he used to work, travel and night he used to return to his home. By the time he reaches home, it will be so late that his wife and children will be sleeping.

His wife used to do housework whole day and takes care of the children. But he never helped her. He used to think all she does is sit in the house and he is the one who earns and feeds them. One day his wife decided to talk to him and to tell him that it’s difficult for her to be alone. She called him and asked him to come home early for a day.

He went home and asked his wife “Why did you call me? You know that I am so busy. All you do is sit at home.”.  She replied “Yes, I sit at home but I don’t sit and sleep whole day. I do all the work in the house. I wake up morning clean the house, cook food, do the laundry, I feed the children, take them to school and look after them.” Josh replied “so what? What’s so difficult about that? I work whole day outside.” She said “yes you work outside, you earn money, you spend it for yourself and I am not asking for it. All I need is you spend some time with me and your children. I am married to you but I feel alone and I don’t get any love, care or appreciation from you.” Josh ignored her. He told her that he is tired and she is creating unnecessary problems.

Days went by, one day when he came home early, he saw that things were lying on the floor, cloths unwashed, the kitchen was not clean, sink was full of dishes, bedroom was not tidy. Books lying all over the table. He stood in the hall and started shouting “Why have you not cleaned the house? Where are you? ” There was no reply. He looked for his wife and she was not inside the house. His Children were not there either. He called to her phone and there was no reply. After few hours he got a call from the hospital that his wife is admitted. He went to the hospital and he found his wife in a serious condition. He asked the doctor, “what happened to my wife?”. Doctor said “Your wife is suffering from chronic kidney disease. She is undergoing treatment for it for months now. Her condition is getting worse.” Josh was shocked.

Doctor asked “You are her husband, right? How come you did not know about her condition?  You did not notice that she is growing weak and suffering? ” Josh was unable to reply to the doctor. He sat near to his wife who was lying on the hospital bed. He looked at her with tears in his eyes. He looked at his children and he saw them taking care of their mother.

He started feeling guilty about how being a husband he did not take time to care for his wife. He sat there crying thinking how his wife managed to do all the work at house alone. How lonely she might have felt without having anyone to tell her problems. How depressed she might have been without having her husband to look after her. As these thoughts ran in his mind… he started crying out loud holding his wife hands. His wife woke up hearing him cry and said to him “Don’t cry, at least you are here now.”

That day Josh decided he is never going to take his family for granted. He realized that he was setting his priorities wrong the whole time. Josh started spending time with his wife and children. He still goes to work and also looks after his family. He helps his wife with the chores, takes her to hospital and always makes sure that she is happy. After few years, his wife completely recovered. They are now a happy family.

Marriage life

Acsah Roshan

It’s been 2 years to my marriage now. Along the way I understood that we are more successful as a team. We overcome the challenges together. Our unfailing love for one another has kept us together and God has blessed us abundantly with a child.

One thing that comes to mind is the long-time commitment. Can’t say married life will be all filled with happiness. Both husband and wife selflessness grow the family love. Both appreciate each other, help and care for each other. Both husband and wife have to contribute equally for the family to be happy. There will be joys and sorrows, you stick together during those times.

Here are few of my thoughts on marriage:

Disagreements

I have heard many times, if there is some disagreement in the marriage always the wife is asked to adjust. Why is it so? I believe Husband is equally responsible. There is some disagreement then one has to compromise but does not mean it should be always the same person.

Listening and Respect

You listen to each other’s opinions and respect each other. Husband might not like wife’s opinion always and same applies for wife. But you still listen to each other to be together because you love each other.

Parenting

You begin as a couple and family extends once you have children. Now you have additional person to take care of. Both has to take care of the child. Many woman are asked to leave their jobs after marriage to take care of their children. They leave their jobs and dreams. This won’t be the case if the husband supports wife in taking care of the family. They can always come up with solutions to make sure everyone is happy.

Responsibilities

Responsibility increases and you come together to contribute. You sacrifice your wants and focus on only what is really needed for the family. It should never be only one person taking up the responsibility but about oneness.

In laws

Most marriages get issues when their in-laws come into picture. You both will be happy and adjusting with each other. But once your in-laws are forcing their decisions it creates problems for your marriage if one of you does not agree to it. If you are both okay with their decision then there is no problem to go with it. I believe once you are married, it’s up to the husband and wife to make decisions for their family.

Every marriage is different but goal is the same. Everyone wants to live as a happy family and this can be only possible if both husband-and-wife respect and love each other’s differences. I believe marriage is a God’s union, never let anybody separate you.

I have created a short husband-wife meme video( just for fun ) – you can watch it here https://youtu.be/4fcU-uoYIl8