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There was a man named Josh. He was a rich man who owned a big company. He had a wife and two children.
He was so busy establishing his company and rarely spent time with his family. He had no idea what his wife likes or what his children are doing. His only aim was to earn a lot of money. Whole day he used to work, travel and night he used to return to his home. By the time he reaches home, it will be so late that his wife and children will be sleeping.
His wife used to do housework whole day and takes care of the children. But he never helped her. He used to think all she does is sit in the house and he is the one who earns and feeds them. One day his wife decided to talk to him and to tell him that it’s difficult for her to be alone. She called him and asked him to come home early for a day.
He went home and asked his wife “Why did you call me? You know that I am so busy. All you do is sit at home.”. She replied “Yes, I sit at home but I don’t sit and sleep whole day. I do all the work in the house. I wake up morning clean the house, cook food, do the laundry, I feed the children, take them to school and look after them.” Josh replied “so what? What’s so difficult about that? I work whole day outside.” She said “yes you work outside, you earn money, you spend it for yourself and I am not asking for it. All I need is you spend some time with me and your children. I am married to you but I feel alone and I don’t get any love, care or appreciation from you.” Josh ignored her. He told her that he is tired and she is creating unnecessary problems.
Days went by, one day when he came home early, he saw that things were lying on the floor, cloths unwashed, the kitchen was not clean, sink was full of dishes, bedroom was not tidy. Books lying all over the table. He stood in the hall and started shouting “Why have you not cleaned the house? Where are you? ” There was no reply. He looked for his wife and she was not inside the house. His Children were not there either. He called to her phone and there was no reply. After few hours he got a call from the hospital that his wife is admitted. He went to the hospital and he found his wife in a serious condition. He asked the doctor, “what happened to my wife?”. Doctor said “Your wife is suffering from chronic kidney disease. She is undergoing treatment for it for months now. Her condition is getting worse.” Josh was shocked.
Doctor asked “You are her husband, right? How come you did not know about her condition? You did not notice that she is growing weak and suffering? ” Josh was unable to reply to the doctor. He sat near to his wife who was lying on the hospital bed. He looked at her with tears in his eyes. He looked at his children and he saw them taking care of their mother.
He started feeling guilty about how being a husband he did not take time to care for his wife. He sat there crying thinking how his wife managed to do all the work at house alone. How lonely she might have felt without having anyone to tell her problems. How depressed she might have been without having her husband to look after her. As these thoughts ran in his mind… he started crying out loud holding his wife hands. His wife woke up hearing him cry and said to him “Don’t cry, at least you are here now.”
That day Josh decided he is never going to take his family for granted. He realized that he was setting his priorities wrong the whole time. Josh started spending time with his wife and children. He still goes to work and also looks after his family. He helps his wife with the chores, takes her to hospital and always makes sure that she is happy. After few years, his wife completely recovered. They are now a happy family.
We all have someone whom we wish we could take out from our mind and heart. It can be anyone who hurt you in the past. Forgetting can be difficult and stressful.
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Here are somethings you can do.
Accept that the other person is no longer in your life. Yes, it can be difficult to accept the bitter truth but if you do not do that then you will be waiting for someone who may never come back. In turn you may end up hurting yourself again.
Think About the Bad memories:
Make a list of things that were bad for you in that relationship. Now those things can no longer affect you.
Forgive and Forget:
Forgiving the other person helps you to move on. Mainly, forgive yourself for any shortcomings that has caused you to separate from the person. Maybe you tried your best but another person decided to leave. Let go of the person and accept what happened. But don’t forget what you learned so that nobody hurts you again.
You need some alone time to get to know your feelings and to figure out.
Write a diary:
Write about it, take out all your feelings to help you reduce the emotional stress.
Look after yourself:
Do some exercise and eat something that you enjoy. Write down the things you want to do, go out, pamper yourself and stay active.
Give yourself time to heal:
Forgetting someone does not happen overnight. Take it slow and don’t be harsh on yourself. As the time goes your pain will also go. Talk to someone who will listen to you if you find it difficult to move on. Express out your feelings and don’t keep it all within you.
Never take your loved ones for granted. Make them feel loved, cared and support them when they need you, if you don’t want to regret losing them.