How many of you think saying No is rude? We all hesitate to say No only because we are afraid of what others might think of us.
You are invited to a marriage and you instantly say Yes. But in your mind you remember that you already have another appointment or already busy that day. But still you cant go back and say No. You wait till the day before the marriage date and say… “ hey how’s your marriage preparation going on? You know what.. I suddenly caught fever. I might not be able to travel tomorrow. But still I will try.” So here you have again delayed the process of saying No and added a lie to it as well. But you did it to not hurt the other person’s feeling.
Next day you message them instead of calling “ Hey.. sorry could not attend your marriage. I am still not well. Will visit you when I get time. Congrats Buddy!” Here you lied again and you still are unable to say No.
We are in a constant fear of rejecting someone, their opinions, their invites, their beliefs. We think if we say No they will get angry, walk away, they might do the same to us, their feelings get hurt.
But saying Yes is just a process of delaying when you will eventually say No.
Some of you may have come across situations in your life where you are asked to do something you don’t like. You hate it but to keep them happy you say Yes. Everything goes sweet and happy but there comes one day when you are no longer able to say Yes. You express your disagreement and you see they turn against you. They just want you to say Yes, no matter what happens to you. It does not matter to them that you are happy or not. Maybe this situation might have been avoided if you had said No at the start. Maybe they might not get this angry at you.
Politely say No by saying “Thank you but sorry I am already booked”, “I respect your opinion but I don’t think it will work for me”, “Thank you but I will pass this one”.
So here are some of the advantages of saying No
- You respect yourself.
- You become brave.
- You stand up for yourself.
- You take control of your life.
- You get rid of unwanted worry.
- You don’t give false hope to someone.
- You come to know another person’s true behavior.
- You save your time.
- You start enjoying what you like.
- You stay away from people who really don’t like you.
- You no longer take unwanted stress.
- You make your own decisions.
“You don’t have to accept things you are not okay with.”