Trust once broken is broken. Once someone breaks your trust whatever they do seems to be a lie. You doubt each thing they do. Even when they talk to you, your mind questions you.
No matter how much they try to prove or change, you can never go back to how it was. You don’t want to get hurt again. Its not that you don’t want to give a second chance. You chose not to trust again for yourself. You have learned that how much ever important that person is, you are more important and you never want to go through that bad phase again.
Those who did not support you when you needed them the most, if you give them another chance will they stand by you? Will they fulfill the promises they made to you? Will they stop lying? Will they stop hiding and tell you anything that happens? Will they now think twice before making any decisions that might hurt you? Are you important to them? Do they understand how you feel? These never ending questions make you lose your self value and respect. You feel powerless and you waste your time on asking why.
In life people will hurt you , people who matter the most to you can hurt you, it can be both intentional or not. But the fact they hurt you and broke your trust remains.
There are some things you can do to not lose yourself:
1. Make your own decisions: Have your own opinions and if you don’t like anything just say it. Choose what works for you.
2. Self value : Take time to appreciate yourself. Never allow anyone to treat you less.
3. Stop questioning: It’s very difficult to be without finding answers for why it happened but you will need to somehow stop the why’s for your own well being.
4. Keep a diary: Write down your thoughts, the lessons learned and what you should avoid thinking.
5. Excercise : Keeps your body and mind healthy and calm.
6. Routine: Maintain a daily schedule to keep yourself busy but don’t forget about including self care.
7. Think positive: Be happy that atleast now you know that those people are not good for you. You can now keep some distance from them.
8. Love yourself: Do something you love. If you don’t like something about you then try to improve on it.
9. Talk to others: When someone breaks trust, most people tend to stay away from others. Instead of that talk to someone who can understand you.
A reason to be happy Reason to be angry Reason to hold on to someone Reason to let go Reason to be thankful Reason to be kind Reason to hate Reason to lose Reason to success Reason to walk away Reason to stay strong Reason to give up Reason to trust Reason to doubt
What is that Reason? What is the reason behind your happiness and those positive things that comes in your life? What could be the reason for the things that hurt you?
Sometimes you need to think to get those reasons and make some changes in your life. Take out those negatives and allow space for good things to come to your life.
Life will be always complicated. You will have ups and downs. Somedays you will be dancing in joy. Somedays you will cry. There are happy moments that makes you smile and laugh. Sometimes you will be in good health and sometimes you go through sickness. There are failures. There are success. You meet good people. You learn lessons from wrong people. This uncertainty makes you stressful. But keep faith and keep going. Life isn’t always going to be perfect but you will get what you wanted one day. Amazing things will happen in your life as you move forward. You will get stronger and you will learn to overcome the struggles. You will come to know you have more potential and you are way more capable. In life there is no right time or a wrong time for doing things. Be happy now. Embrace yourself. The choice is with you to make your present better. Do more of what makes you happy.
It’s okay to pause for a while.. Save your efforts for doing something good for yourself.
Make a to-do list Eat healthy and eat what you like Excercise Go for a walk Pamper yourself Listen to your favorite music Avoid negative people Think positive Be thankful Express your feelings Don’t focus on what others think about you Say no to what you don’t like Write a diary Help someone Do what you enjoy Be yourself.
When you stop, you get to know more things about yourself and your life.
Hurting past comes by saying, How can you forget the one who cursed you? Have you already forgiven the tears they caused you? Again my mind goes wondering.. Heart aches and my memories keeps me reminding.. You were never wrong, You deserve to be respected, Never forget the lessons they taught you. It’s only because of them you have become stronger. Never feel sad again thinking why they cursed you. You are already blessed. Whatever they say out of their selfishness will never affect you!
There was a man named Josh. He was a rich man who owned a big company. He had a wife and two children.
He was so busy establishing his company and rarely spent time with his family. He had no idea what his wife likes or what his children are doing. His only aim was to earn a lot of money. Whole day he used to work, travel and night he used to return to his home. By the time he reaches home, it will be so late that his wife and children will be sleeping.
His wife used to do housework whole day and takes care of the children. But he never helped her. He used to think all she does is sit in the house and he is the one who earns and feeds them. One day his wife decided to talk to him and to tell him that it’s difficult for her to be alone. She called him and asked him to come home early for a day.
He went home and asked his wife “Why did you call me? You know that I am so busy. All you do is sit at home.”. She replied “Yes, I sit at home but I don’t sit and sleep whole day. I do all the work in the house. I wake up morning clean the house, cook food, do the laundry, I feed the children, take them to school and look after them.” Josh replied “so what? What’s so difficult about that? I work whole day outside.” She said “yes you work outside, you earn money, you spend it for yourself and I am not asking for it. All I need is you spend some time with me and your children. I am married to you but I feel alone and I don’t get any love, care or appreciation from you.” Josh ignored her. He told her that he is tired and she is creating unnecessary problems.
Days went by, one day when he came home early, he saw that things were lying on the floor, cloths unwashed, the kitchen was not clean, sink was full of dishes, bedroom was not tidy. Books lying all over the table. He stood in the hall and started shouting “Why have you not cleaned the house? Where are you? ” There was no reply. He looked for his wife and she was not inside the house. His Children were not there either. He called to her phone and there was no reply. After few hours he got a call from the hospital that his wife is admitted. He went to the hospital and he found his wife in a serious condition. He asked the doctor, “what happened to my wife?”. Doctor said “Your wife is suffering from chronic kidney disease. She is undergoing treatment for it for months now. Her condition is getting worse.” Josh was shocked.
Doctor asked “You are her husband, right? How come you did not know about her condition? You did not notice that she is growing weak and suffering? ” Josh was unable to reply to the doctor. He sat near to his wife who was lying on the hospital bed. He looked at her with tears in his eyes. He looked at his children and he saw them taking care of their mother.
He started feeling guilty about how being a husband he did not take time to care for his wife. He sat there crying thinking how his wife managed to do all the work at house alone. How lonely she might have felt without having anyone to tell her problems. How depressed she might have been without having her husband to look after her. As these thoughts ran in his mind… he started crying out loud holding his wife hands. His wife woke up hearing him cry and said to him “Don’t cry, at least you are here now.”
That day Josh decided he is never going to take his family for granted. He realized that he was setting his priorities wrong the whole time. Josh started spending time with his wife and children. He still goes to work and also looks after his family. He helps his wife with the chores, takes her to hospital and always makes sure that she is happy. After few years, his wife completely recovered. They are now a happy family.