Is it okay to tolerate someone when you don’t like what they do? Is it okay to adjust to their behavior? When you know they constantly lie..is it okay to not bother? Tolerance leads to the scariest results.. one day you are gonna reach your limits and its going to be the worst. It’s always better to express what and how you feel.. let them know you don’t like the way they act. They can’t fool you and you know what’s going on. If they are going to continue doing whatever they like, that means they are not the right person to be in your life. Even if you are going to lose such people..its their loss and not yours.
Met a wonderful person today. When I look at her.. I know why I am still stuck doing the same things.
I somehow hate taking public transport, especially I feel taking bus, trains and auto’s to be really exhausting. Not sure how many of you feel the same. This wonderful lady says she loves commuting to office using buses and train.. even though it’s like a 1 hour journey. She gets the chance to look around..find something new and to get some time to think, away from her home.
She says how she’s old and single..yet she’s successful and cheerful.
She loves to interact with new people everyday. I was amazed by her calmness, the way she quickly adapted to new surroundings. She travelled more than a 13 hour Flight but I could barely notice any tiredness on her face..
We don’t really need someone to depend on , if we have made up our mind that we are going to be fine. Everyday we do get something to compliant about..it can be sometimes a very small problem. We might be angry with someone else or about something but we take it out at the wrong time and at the wrong person. Somedays we feel tired without any reason.
Worrying about what’s going to happen ..takes up more time. Makes us feel low and feel like a loser.
When we think about it calmly.. we can know how much a single positive thought can change our life. A little discomfort can give us something good. We don’t have to be stuck with someone who doesnot value us and we can be more peaceful.
Learning and success is always achieved when we are out of our comfort zone.
There comes one point when you realize this time you need to let go.
Some mistakes cannot be undone, some hurts cannot be forgotten and some people can never be forgiven ..no matter how close they are to you.
Never lose your self respect and never lose yourself over someone who knows they are wrong but still never ready to accept and change themselves. It’s the sad truth but you need to accept that in the past and present they did not give you the importance, did not stand up for you.. then in the future also they are going to be the same.
Life gives you the choice to hold on or move on. Whatever you chose.. life goes on.
A thousand questions passes the mind. It could have been easy then why this struggle? Questioning whether you can hold on.. Tears rolling and the sharp pain within.. When will this Bad phase go away? Then you hear a voice that says… Today’s struggle can be tomorrow’s happiness. Today’s tears can be tomorrow’s joy. Today’s difficulties can be tomorrow’s learning. Have patience and you will see things change!
Trust once broken is broken. Once someone breaks your trust whatever they do seems to be a lie. You doubt each thing they do. Even when they talk to you, your mind questions you.
No matter how much they try to prove or change, you can never go back to how it was. You don’t want to get hurt again. Its not that you don’t want to give a second chance. You chose not to trust again for yourself. You have learned that how much ever important that person is, you are more important and you never want to go through that bad phase again.
Those who did not support you when you needed them the most, if you give them another chance will they stand by you? Will they fulfill the promises they made to you? Will they stop lying? Will they stop hiding and tell you anything that happens? Will they now think twice before making any decisions that might hurt you? Are you important to them? Do they understand how you feel? These never ending questions make you lose your self value and respect. You feel powerless and you waste your time on asking why.
In life people will hurt you , people who matter the most to you can hurt you, it can be both intentional or not. But the fact they hurt you and broke your trust remains.
There are some things you can do to not lose yourself:
1. Make your own decisions: Have your own opinions and if you don’t like anything just say it. Choose what works for you.
2. Self value : Take time to appreciate yourself. Never allow anyone to treat you less.
3. Stop questioning: It’s very difficult to be without finding answers for why it happened but you will need to somehow stop the why’s for your own well being.
4. Keep a diary: Write down your thoughts, the lessons learned and what you should avoid thinking.
5. Excercise : Keeps your body and mind healthy and calm.
6. Routine: Maintain a daily schedule to keep yourself busy but don’t forget about including self care.
7. Think positive: Be happy that atleast now you know that those people are not good for you. You can now keep some distance from them.
8. Love yourself: Do something you love. If you don’t like something about you then try to improve on it.
9. Talk to others: When someone breaks trust, most people tend to stay away from others. Instead of that talk to someone who can understand you.
A reason to be happy Reason to be angry Reason to hold on to someone Reason to let go Reason to be thankful Reason to be kind Reason to hate Reason to lose Reason to success Reason to walk away Reason to stay strong Reason to give up Reason to trust Reason to doubt
What is that Reason? What is the reason behind your happiness and those positive things that comes in your life? What could be the reason for the things that hurt you?
Sometimes you need to think to get those reasons and make some changes in your life. Take out those negatives and allow space for good things to come to your life.