Since I was on maternity leave, I was staying with my parents at Delhi for few months now. I had my mother to help me look after the baby, I did not have to cook 😁, My dad who cooks my favorite dishes and special biryanis… Now that I think of it, I rarely did any housework. Sadly, my leave has almost come to an end, have to join work on Oct 14th. Me and my husband are back to Hyderabad. Its only 2 days now but it’s been too hectic with all the unpacking, arranging and cleaning. With just two of us doing all the work… now I know it’s not an easy task to do housework plus looking after the baby. Hopefully things will get settled a bit once the organizing is done. Specially I have to maintain a schedule for doing things… These two days everything was messy and delayed. Its going to be a completely new experience… hopefully a good one 👸(Being positive)
In the coming weeks I plan to share any new tips and my travel ✈ experience with baby . There were somethings which I did not know as a new Mom and I have learned now. Looking forward to share those tips with you soon. 😊
You know the love of a parent once you become a parent. You realize there are lot of things that needs to be changed. Before your child is born, you make plans on what to buy and what changes to be done in your life, which will make your child’s life easier and comfortable. All are decided to suit the child’s comfort and needs. For example.. If you did not own a car.. you feel now its the right time to buy a car. It does not matter that you have to work harder, sacrifice your desires and save more.
As you see your child , you are willing to work harder. You only think about giving the best to your child. You want to give what you did not have to your child. Responsibilities increase but you still want to do everything that will make your child smile.
You no longer think about yourself. Its more about your child. Its like.. when you open online shopping app you look at baby or kids clothing first.
When you feel like giving up.. you see your child smile and you get a reason to hold on. You come back tired from your work and when you see your child, you forget your exhaustion. You run and hug your child. You always want to show your love. You are now promoted from a couple to a Mom and a Dad.
It’s been 2 years to my marriage now. Along the way I understood that we are more successful as a team. We overcome the challenges together. Our unfailing love for one another has kept us together and God has blessed us abundantly with a child.
One thing that comes to mind is the long-time commitment. Can’t say married life will be all filled with happiness. Both husband and wife selflessness grow the family love. Both appreciate each other, help and care for each other. Both husband and wife have to contribute equally for the family to be happy. There will be joys and sorrows, you stick together during those times.
Here are few of my thoughts on marriage:
I have heard many times, if there is some disagreement in the marriage always the wife is asked to adjust. Why is it so? I believe Husband is equally responsible. There is some disagreement then one has to compromise but does not mean it should be always the same person.
Listening and Respect
You listen to each other’s opinions and respect each other. Husband might not like wife’s opinion always and same applies for wife. But you still listen to each other to be together because you love each other.
You begin as a couple and family extends once you have children. Now you have additional person to take care of. Both has to take care of the child. Many woman are asked to leave their jobs after marriage to take care of their children. They leave their jobs and dreams. This won’t be the case if the husband supports wife in taking care of the family. They can always come up with solutions to make sure everyone is happy.
Responsibility increases and you come together to contribute. You sacrifice your wants and focus on only what is really needed for the family. It should never be only one person taking up the responsibility but about oneness.
Most marriages get issues when their in-laws come into picture. You both will be happy and adjusting with each other. But once your in-laws are forcing their decisions it creates problems for your marriage if one of you does not agree to it. If you are both okay with their decision then there is no problem to go with it. I believe once you are married, it’s up to the husband and wife to make decisions for their family.
Every marriage is different but goal is the same. Everyone wants to live as a happy family and this can be only possible if both husband-and-wife respect and love each other’s differences. I believe marriage is a God’s union, never let anybody separate you.